About the Love Gurus

Every way to check if you two fit. Honestly labelled. Free, no email, no app.

We are the love gurus. We have been running the Love Calculator since 2017, we relaunched it in 2026, and this page tells you who we are, how every tool on the site works, and how we make money. It is a game. Most of the site is a game. The parts that are not are labelled, and that is the whole idea.

Two pages hold the detail: methodology: how we calculate it, and authors and reviewers, who are, for now, one engineer.

Why every love calculator gives a different number

Type the same two names into five love calculators and you get five numbers.

Suraj is a software engineer, and an engineer who sees five answers to one question wants to see the formulas. So we went looking. Some of the classic calculators run the paper "true love" letter count that children have been doing in exercise books for decades. Some run a letter-value sum. Some draw a random number and show it with a serious face. One or two clearly hash the two strings and take the remainder. None of them say which, and the one that comes closest to explaining itself says the method is proprietary.

That was the problem worth fixing. Not that love calculators are games, which everybody over the age of twelve already knows, but that they pretend not to be. So this site publishes every formula it runs, on the methodology page, in plain words and in pseudocode, and puts a one-line label under every tool that says what kind of thing it is. Whatever score our name calculator gives you, you can see exactly why, and you can check it with a pen.

Why this site exists

Somebody asks "do we fit?" about three million times a month in the United States alone, in the form of a search. The question comes from a fourteen-year-old with a crush, a couple comparing birth charts on a second date, and a person at 2 a.m. wondering whether their partner's love language is the problem. The answers on offer are a name game with a 1996 persona, a giant generic calculator site with one honest sentence, astrology marketplaces that push a paid reading when your score is low, and a quiz site that wants your email address before it shows you your result.

We think the question deserves a straight answer, and a straight answer has three parts: every popular method in one place, a label on each one saying whether it is a game, a tradition or something informed by research, and an explanation of what the result means. That is the site. Names, FLAMES, zodiac pairs, birth charts, life-path numbers, love languages and a couples quiz, each with its own page, each labelled, each explained, none of them gated.

The 2018 version of this site, run by the anonymous publishers who built it, put it this way: "there is no better predictor of successful relationships than a compatibility score from a random website you stumbled upon run by anonymous love gurus." They were joking. We kept the joke, and we kept the honesty underneath it, and we added the part they left out: the formula.

What makes it different

Every formula is published. The name calculator, FLAMES, the zodiac rules, the life-path reduction, the love-language scoring: all of it is on the methodology page, in words you can follow and pseudocode you can run. Same names, same score, every time, and you can prove it.

Every tool wears a label. Under every H1 and on every result screen there is one line that says Game, Tradition or Research-informed, and what that means. Nobody else does this, because most of our competitors sell certainty and a label would cost them money.

Nothing stands between you and your result. No email, no app, no account, no astrologer on the phone. The tools run in your browser and the names you type never leave it unless you choose to make a share card.

Every result comes with an explanation. A number by itself is the least interesting part. Each tool tells you what the score means, where the method comes from, and what to try next.

No tracking in your face. No pop-ups, no exit-intent, no autoplay, no push-notification prompts, no newsletter modals, no share gates. You will see ads, because ads pay for the site, and the ads on the game pages are contextual only.

Corrections within 72 hours. If a formula, a fact or a source is wrong, write to us and we fix it, log it on the changelog, and say so on the page.

How the tools work, in short

The full record is on the methodology page; this is the one-paragraph version of each method, so that you can see what kind of thing you are dealing with before you press a button.

The name calculator (Game). It counts the letters of TRUE and the letters of LOVE across both names, adds each word's counts, reduces each total to one digit, and puts the two digits side by side as a percentage. That is the paper TRUE LOVE game as players describe it, and we run it the same way so you can check it with a pen. Swapping the order of the names does not change the answer; using full names instead of first names does. It cannot see your relationship. It can only see your letters.

FLAMES (Game). Strike out the letters the two names share, count what is left, and count around the letters F, L, A, M, E, S, removing the letter you land on each time, until one is left: Friends, Lovers, Affectionate, Marriage, Enemies, Siblings. A playground game older than the web, run exactly as the playground runs it.

Zodiac compatibility (Tradition). Western astrology rates two sun signs by element (fire, earth, air, water), by modality (cardinal, fixed, mutable) and by the angle between the signs on the wheel. Same-element pairs and trines are read as easy; squares and some oppositions as friction. We apply the standard rules and show them.

Birth chart compatibility, or synastry (Tradition). Two full charts compared, with the Sun, Moon, Venus, Mars and the ascendant weighted for love and the aspects between them read the way astrologers have read them for centuries. If you do not know a birth time, the tool says what it can and cannot read without one.

Numerology compatibility (Tradition). Each birth date reduces to a life-path number from 1 to 9 (with 11, 22 and 33 handled as the tradition states), and the two numbers meet on a 9 by 9 grid built on one popular grouping of the numbers, 1-5-7, 2-4-8 and 3-6-9. Not every numerologist uses that grouping, and the calculator page says so.

The love language test (Research-informed). A short set of forced-choice pairs, scored by counting how often you pick each of Gary Chapman's five languages: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, physical touch. Your top count is your primary language. The framework is from Chapman's 1992 book; the evidence for it is mixed, and the page says so.

The couple compatibility quiz (Research-informed). Nine dimensions, one score each, compared across two partners' answers in DUO mode. The dimensions and the questions are informed by named relationship research, and the result is a self-reflection tool, not an assessment of your relationship.

The three labels, verbatim:

• Game: this score comes from a fixed formula on the letters or answers you enter. It is for fun and cannot tell you anything about a real relationship.
• Tradition: this result follows a named system, a system many people find meaningful. It reflects that tradition, not evidence about the two of you.
• Research-informed: this quiz is built on a named source, and is a self-reflection tool, not a clinical assessment or a diagnosis.

What a score can and cannot tell you. A Game score tells you about letters. A Tradition result tells you what that tradition says about two signs, two charts or two numbers, and there is no evidence that birth dates predict how two people get on. A Research-informed result tells you how you answered, and what that pattern usually means in the source it is built on. None of them can see the two of you. If something in your relationship is worrying you, talk to someone you trust, not a calculator.

The team

Suraj Giri: Founder, Engineer, Editor. Suraj builds the calculators, publishes the formulas and edits every page. He is a software engineer whose background is in frontend systems and performance work, and he did undergraduate research in cognitive psychology, on attention and time perception. He is also the founder, engineer and editor of The Blog Timer, where he publishes a tested timer engine, an eight-test accuracy methodology and a public changelog, which is where the habit of publishing the formula comes from. He is not a psychologist, a therapist, an astrologer or a numerologist, and no page on this site will imply that he is. Read his author page.

The love gurus. The plural, self-aware editorial voice this site has used since 2017. It is not a person and it is not a pseudonym; it is the name of the editorial team, which at the moment is one engineer and, we hope, soon a few reviewers. Game pages carry "the love gurus" as their byline. Every Tradition and Research-informed page carries Suraj's name, and the name of its reviewer once one is appointed.

Future contributors will be named on the byline, will follow the editorial policy, and will have a public author page with real credentials. We do not publish under invented names.

Publisher. LoveCalculator.love is owned and operated by Suraj Giri, 17625 NE 65th Ct, Redmond, WA 98052, United States.

The story since 2017

LoveCalculator.love first went live in February 2017 as a one-page name calculator run by an anonymous group of small-tool publishers who signed their pages "xoxo, the love gurus". It ran on the same template, unchanged, until June 2026, when the domain expired. Suraj Giri registered it in August 2026 and relaunched it in October 2026 with the same name, the same product and the same sign-off, and with every formula published for the first time. We say this plainly because a domain that changes hands should say so.

Editorial advisors (future)

We want each kind of page reviewed by someone who does that thing for a living. These roles are open. If you are one of these people and want to check our work, write to us.

• A licensed couples therapist or relationship researcher, to review the Research-informed pages: the love language test, the couple compatibility quiz, the am-I-in-love quiz, and the attachment, love-styles and relationship psychology explainers. The job is to confirm that we describe the research accurately and claim nothing it does not support.
• A professional astrologer, to review the Tradition pages: the zodiac hub, the twelve sign pages, the 78 pair pages, the synastry calculator and the birth-date tools. The job is to confirm that we describe the tradition the way its practitioners hold it. It is not to certify that astrology works; we do not claim that, and a reviewer will not be asked to.
• A numerologist, for the numerology calculator and the 45 life-path pair pages, on the same terms.
• A Vedic astrologer, for the kundli matching explainer, whose eight-koota table needs checking by someone who uses it.
• A child-safety or education reviewer, for the game pages, which are visited by children and teenagers. The job is age-appropriateness, not formulas.

Until a role is filled, the pages it would cover say so in their byline: "Reviewer for this method: not yet appointed." We would rather print that than a name we made up.

Trust commitments

No tracking in your face. No pop-ups, exit-intent overlays, autoplay, push-notification prompts, newsletter modals or share gates, on any page, ever. The site shows display ads; on the game pages they are contextual only, with no behavioural targeting, because those pages are visited by children.

Disclosed affiliate links, never on a game. Some adult Tradition pages (birth chart, numerology, birth-date and soulmate tools) and some decision pages carry one affiliate link after the result, marked rel="sponsored", with this sentence above it: "If you book a reading through this link, we earn a commission. It does not change what you pay, and your result here stays free either way." Game pages never carry an affiliate link of any kind. We never place a link as a fix for a low score. The full list of partners is here.

Citations to real research. When a page says "research shows", it links to the peer-reviewed paper or the primary book, never to a summary on a blog or a social network. When a claim cannot be sourced, the page says so. The bibliography is here.

Public methodology. Every formula on the site is published in words and pseudocode, with its label, its limits and the tests it passes. Read it.

Public changelog. Every substantive edit to any page is dated and listed, including corrections and formula changes. Read it.

Corrections, fast. A verified error is fixed within 72 hours of the report, or we publish an explanation of why it is taking longer. The correction is logged on the changelog and noted on the page. How to report one.

What "research-informed" means here

Three tools on this site carry the Research-informed label, and the label has a precise meaning: the tool is built on a named source that you can read, and the page states honestly how good the evidence for that source is.

The love language test is built on Gary Chapman's framework from his 1992 book. The framework is popular and useful as a vocabulary; the evidence that each person has one primary language, that there are exactly five, or that matching languages predicts satisfaction, is weak, and a 2024 review in Current Directions in Psychological Science (Impett, Park and Muise) says so. Our page says so too.

The couple compatibility quiz draws its dimensions from relationship research: John Gottman's work on the patterns that predict a couple's stability, and the body of research on similarity and relationship quality. The quiz measures how you answered. It does not measure your relationship, and it is not a clinical instrument.

The relationship psychology explainers cite Robert Sternberg's triangular theory of love, the attachment research that began with Hazan and Shaver's 1987 paper, and the sources above. Where a framework is popular but unsupported for matching couples, which is the case for MBTI, the page's first paragraph says that.

And the honest statement that the rest of the site depends on: astrology and numerology are traditions, not evidence. They are labelled Tradition because many people find them meaningful and because the systems have real, learnable rules that we describe faithfully. There is no evidence that birth dates or names predict how two people will get on, and no page on this site will tell you otherwise. If you ever catch one doing it, that is a correction, and we want to hear about it.

Architecture and sustainability

The site is static. Every page is built ahead of time as plain HTML and served from Cloudflare's edge, so the text, the tables and the labels arrive before any script runs. Each calculator is a small client-side island, between 9 and 22 KB compressed on the build of 22 September 2026 (the shared React runtime every page loads is about 150 KB more), that runs in your browser: the names and dates you enter are processed on your device and never sent to a server, unless you press "share your card", in which case the two first names and the score are sent to make the image. There are no accounts and no database of results.

That is a choice, not an accident. A static site costs almost nothing to run, which is what makes "no tracking in your face" and "no email gate" affordable promises rather than slogans. It also means the pages are fast: our targets are a first paint under 1.5 seconds on a mid-range phone and an interaction delay under 150 milliseconds, and the methodology page reports whether we meet them.

Explore more

• Methodology: how we calculate every score
• Editorial policy and corrections
• Sources and bibliography
• Changelog
• How we make money
• Authors and reviewers · Suraj Giri
• Terms of use · Accessibility · Site index
• All tools · Zodiac compatibility · Numerology compatibility · Love language test

Questions, corrections, a citation we got wrong, or anything else: info@lovecalculator.love, or the contact page.

Now go and try the calculator. It is a game. A fun one. Please do not break up over it.

XOXO, the love gurus